The Truth About IVF

So SIF wrote this post about the truth of IVF. I read a couple responses from some other blogs (see here and here) and I thought I should share my own.
First of all, IVF is a very personal choice. I have heard mixed feelings on the subject. A lot of responses I have heard is that IVF is too invasive. Well, it is invasive! Physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, it is invasive and uncomfortable. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done. The only thing harder was struggling with infertility and NOT doing anything about it. Luckily, I know that the Spirit can guide us in our decisions.
James 1:5 says, "If any of you lack wisdom, let him as of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him."
This teaches me that if I have a question, I can ask God and he will guide me to the right answer. That was exactly what we did when making the decision to move forward with IVF. We prayed our little hearts out asking for guidance. We didn't get some huge answer, but we did a lot of research and we both felt good about doing IVF so we decided to move forward. The entire process took a few months but it was worth every second. I'm sure I would feel different if it didn't work out for us, but it did! While I understand that this is a personal decision for everybody, this is what worked for us. I don't mean it worked because we got pregnant. It worked because we felt like this is the path that our Heavenly Father would have us take to get closer to having our family. I feel like as long as you do everything that you can to have your little ones come to you (whether that is IVF, adoption, and everything in between), they are supposed to be the ones coming to you.
When deciding which path to take to have your own family, make God part of that decision. Ultimately, He is the only one who knows what you are going through and how it ends. He loves His children and wants them to be happy.

IF

This past week I realized that infertility can really bring some people together. My husband and I own a pest control company and sometimes he has to go out and actually service the routes. This last week, he was servicing a customer and noticed the new nursery in the house. He started talking to the guy who lived there and it turns out his wife is due around the same time I am. Peter made some comment about how it took us a while to get pregnant and they started talking. It turns out this couple had struggled with infertility and did 4 IUIs. They finally got pregnant with their last one. D talked to him for quite a while about how hard it is to go through infertility. They talked about how it was hard to see their wives go through infertility. They talked about the stupid things people say to you when you are trying to get pregnant but can't.
What I love about the situation is how open they were with each other. According to D, they had a really good conversation. I love that when we are open with our struggle, we can become a little closer to other people. It's like this little family out there and we just need to open our mouths to connect with them.