I came across this article today and it has really made me think. He talks about waiting for intimacy until marriage and getting married the "right way". Being from an LDS culture, it is expected to wait until marriage but as I read this article, I realized that abstinence until marriage is not the norm. Obviously, I knew this but I didn't realize how "weird" we were for waiting. So what does this have to do with IF? Well, I was thinking about how lucky I am to have my wonderful husband. Before we got married, I never had to take birth control. I never had to take a pregnancy test by myself. I never had to get tested for STDs. I never had to worry about being a single mom. I had a very carefree fun time where I could learn about myself, become comfortable in my own skin, go to school, date, and just grow up without any such worries that come along with sex outside of marriage.
Once we got married, we shared something that we didn't share with anybody else. I feel like that has bonded us on some level. I am so lucky to have him. I could not have made it through some days when we were TTC without him. He stood by my side and picked me up (sometimes literally) when I was down because I longed to have a child. I would not want to go through something so hard with anybody else. He is my rock and my support.
It is a weird position to be in to have struggled with IF and now have a child. My son brings me joy that I could not have ever imagined before having him. I still have moments where I just look at him and start crying. I just hate the unknown. Maybe if we had a real diagnosis I could at least have some sort of idea what the future holds. For now, I will just enjoy my time with my family of three. I am so blessed.
update: I emailed the girl about the support group but it does not exist anymore :(
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